This is a story about a divorce who was left by her husband for the other girl. It must be very hard for her and she should had feel upset and angry about her former husband. However instead, she is longing for him and seem not be able to forget him.
Now, she had met another man who had shown interest. He is being caring and kind and wanted to get more serious. She is not sure what to do. He heart is divided, between the memory of the past husband and the care of the newly found man.
I wonder what a smart lady like you will do in this situation.
This is what Thelma from Malaysia the star suggested...
Burnt after failed marriage
I’M in my late 30s. I got married late but the marriage didn’t last long. We split up due to a third person’s involvement.
The problem is I can’t forget my ex-husband although he has done nothing for me. I keep thinking about him and was very hurt. He has ignored me all this time.
Now I have come to know a man in his early 40s who is caring and listens to my problems. He cares for me and I have fallen in love with him. But I’m afraid to tell him everything that has happened. What should I do?
Confused
YOU are divorced, available and completely free to do as you wish. You do not need to justify love and romance to anyone.
Pining for attention from your ex is not worth your time. Since he has chosen to ignore and forget you, accept that this part of your life is best forgotten. Although it hurts to know that the man you married could be so cold and callous, count your lucky stars that you are not trapped in a heartless marriage.
Pain and humiliation is normal when a relationship fails. Never take on all the guilt and blame. Bear with it and do not allow this to brow beat you to being too timid and fearful to love again.
Fortunately, you have found a good man who is caring and considerate. Do not allow him to slip away because you lack the courage to bare your heart. What have you got to lose? If he is not interested in more than friendship, then at least you know not to waste your hopes. Always have faith in yourself. If you cannot find love, you are not at fault.
Give yourself time and do not be afraid to dream and hope. Love will find you when your heart is free and happy
