cheating wife

unday April 19, 2009

Love or fun on the side?

I AM a married woman with four kids. I have been married for 11 years to a man who doesn’t show any responsibility.

I am 30 years old now and have fallen in love with another guy. He is from Penang and is also a married man with five kids.

We both know that our relationship cannot continue long term since both of us have our own families, but at the same time, we can’t ignore the deep love we have for each other.

We have met three times and I can’t break it up just like that because our feelings will kill us. Please advise.

An Affair

IF you want to continue with the affair, be prepared to lose your husband, children and suffer the consequences of your behaviour.

You have four children and your life might have been full of drudgery and boredom when you could have enjoyed your youth and beauty. Things were normal, unexciting and filled with chores and regularities until you met your lover.

This man probably provoked your latent feelings of sexuality and adventure. It must feel so exciting, exhilarating and thrilling to enjoy a relationship on the sly. Perhaps this guy is also suffering marriage fatigue. Sharing a romantic interlude, without commitment or obligation, must feel wonderfully liberating.

During these stolen moments, you could both feel young, free and unfettered by the reality of bringing up a family, working and coping with the daily grind.

However, there is too much hurt and pain involved if you both selfishly decide to carry on. Do not be seduced and fooled by your feelings now. If you marry your lover, life will probably go the same way. There will be the children to care for, the house to clean, as you continue to be wife and mother.

An affair is never a solution. If your marriage is the problem, then think of ways to improve your relationship with your husband. Enjoy your children and do not see them as responsibilities and liabilities.

It should not be difficult to forget a man you have met only three times. Be sensible, rational and remember that your family needs you more. Do not fall into a trap of guilt and regrets because it is more difficult to salvage love betrayed